Fierce Self-Compassion
A recent article by compassion researcher Dr Kristin Neff raises some important points about different ways of being compassionate. Often people notice a difference between what Dr Neff calls 'yin,…
What to do when your ‘best’ is hijacked by your emotions
Watching Marin Cilic succumb to emotional upset in the 2017 Wimbledon Final was excruciating. Few people want to see an athlete embarrassed on a world stage. But it gives a…
Would you like a slice of joy with that?
I’m familiar with gratitude diaries, giving thanks for my blessings and many other versions of this concept …and … Chade-Meng Tan has just put the icing on the cake, so to speak, in his new book Joy on Demand.
As he describes it: in every day there are tiny moments of joy. Here are just a few of mine: a pinky-orange sunrise, the feel of the sun on my back, the aroma of coffee, the feel of a warm hand in mine, the satisfaction of helping someone, the way my body moves to a well-loved tune, an internet story about people doing good in the world, the athleticism of Roger Federer, (more…)
Helpful, healthy language
A good reminder from James Clear on a simple shift in language that can help with healthy eating and with moving our 'locus of control' from external to more internal. …
Will you stay or will you leave?
Fascinating article from researcher Irit Alony, of Wollongong University, published in the Conversation today. She and her colleagues applied the successful divorce-prediction criteria of John Gottman, from the University of…
Why you can’t worry your way to success: What to do instead
I love Sonya Lyubomirsky and Chris Tkach's article on Dysphoric Rumination. It explains perfectly, in academic speak, why you can't worry your way to success and what to do instead. …
Can personality be changed?
Today, I was asked by a colleague whether I believe that personality can be changed. The question coincided with my explorations into how neuroscience and the theory of neuoplasticity is…
How to write a book – A Play
I'm listening to an interview of author Janice Day who wrote about her breast cancer experience. I like her style and her struggle to find a story format to suit…
Why we must celebrate the small wins
A great way to start the week listening to Tim Ferriss' podcast with Chase Jarvis. I especially love his comments about the really important reason for celebrating the small wins.…
Five Questions to help Get Unstuck
I'm participating in an online course with lots of assignments and some of our group have gotten behind and are feeling stuck. It seems overwhelming if not impossible to catch…
Guilt is Good
Have a look at a great video clip from NLP master trainer Steve Andreas about guilt. He gives us some really good reframing: If I'm feeling guilty about something rude…